So, we are pretty new to the hotwife life. I have been in contact with a few potential partners having sexy emails, pics, and text messages. I haven't met any in person yet, and personally wouldn't know what to even say to them. Should hubby and I meet a potential together? Me alone? I guess what we are looking for is examples of other people's experiences.
I am getting close having sex with my first playmate. I was curious to receive any tips on hotwifing in general. But most importantly what safe sex practices does everyone do to ensure no std transmissions? (condoms obviously...lol) But I read about oral sex transmissions, std testing, please let me know, because I just want to be able to enjoy every experience without being worried about something going wrong.
Do you require your potential partners to get tested before?
Do you ask for paperwork? (sounds really awkward)
We just have no clue how to properly broach the subject...
When we meet up with someone that we've met on an internet site I am always present. She has played with people she has met on her own but she got to know them in normal circumstances so she was able to gauge the situation. We have thought about her going out and bringing a guy back from a club, etc. with me hiding in the guest room in order to listen while she has fun (but be there if anything bad happens) but we haven't done that yet. I am always present the first few times she has sex with a guy we've met on the internet as well, so no solo meetings until we know him better.
ReplyDeleteSome folks meet only at hotels for safety and/or privacy concerns or because they have kids at home but that can get expensive. I'd be very careful about meeting at the guys place as cameras are easy to hide and the next thing you know your hotwifing escapades are on an amateur porn site for all to see.
We insist on testing and paperwork from anyone with whom she goes bareback. She will let guys come in her mouth or on her boobs but anything other than that it's condoms until tested. We tend to look for longer term arrangements with guys for this reason and if they balk about getting tested but want to go bareback then we move on. Some couples play only with married men thinking this is safer but we choose not to do so because of the potential drama and also because we don't want to be part of breaking up someone's marriage. If you met your potential fuck buddy on the internet through craigslist or another site it's unlikely that they'll be surprised or put off by someone asking them to be tested.
In the end you have to know your comfort zone, decide on rules and stick with them. Be sure to talk with your husband a LOT about what you both want out of this and work out rules you both can agree on and stick with them.
Hope this helps a little bit. Have FUN.