A Watchful Hubby's Recommendations

1. Establish your boundaries.

What are you two looking for in this experience?  What are your likes and dislikes? Discuss your expectations. Maybe even establish a safe word so you know when your wife is not interested in the guy you've met or when she is no longer comfortable.

2. Always play safe.
In this day and age it's hard for me to comprehend a husband allowing his wife to play without any protection with complete strangers (or anyone for that matter). Nothing comes without certain risk, but it makes sense to me to try your damnedest to minimize that risk.
Sorry, but I will never understand breeding or creampies. That is an extreme element that I just cannot get into. It's up to you and your wife if you want to play safe with intercourse only or with intercourse and oral. There is an acronym commonly used in the BDSM community called RACK which stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink. This basically means that the couple knows what the risks are, has prepared to minimize those risks, and then consented to the activity after full disclosure.

3. Do not rush into anything.
I definitely don't recommend pressuring your wife into doing this for you. As excited as the thought makes you, do not rush into the experience. Talk about it thoroughly and have fun with the fantasy. It's great foreplay! When it's time to find someone to participate, take the time to "screen" him. You care about her, right? For everyone's safety and comfortability make sure you're choosing the right person for the experience. It's in everyone's best interest that the encounter be fun, exciting and satisfying.

4. Meeting.
Be sure to talk to who you plan to meet on the phone before meeting offline. One quick introductory phone call can give you a vibe about someone and whether or not meeting offline is something you want to pursue. The first time you meet him, make it in a public place over drinks or appetizers; not a long meeting. 20 - 30 minutes should be fine. Just long enough for everyone to get a face-to-face and see if there is a mutual attraction between your wife and him. Make sure your new friend understands that it's a casual meeting and should not expect anything more.

5. Handling Disappointment and/or Rejection.
Hey, everyone isn't for everyone. The first time you meet someone offline you may find that their emailed picture doesn't fit the person that's sitting in front of you. You may discover that your new friend is too nervous or you just get a bad vibe about him. Maybe you haven't even exchanged pictures in the interest of being discreet so what you built up in your mind simply wasn't who showed up.

You could have your wife give you a inconspicuous sign if she is interested. Maybe a code word she can work into a casual sentence or something like that. If you haven't received that sign or heard that code word by the end of that first meeting then your wife just isn't into the guy.

My advice is to let your friend know prior to meeting him that you don't plan to discuss attraction or bedroom plans out in public. You can let him know what's going on when you call or email him after the meeting. Then he can tell you if he's interested or not as well. If your wife isn't interested, show some class and politely let the guy know that you all are just not a match (email is fine). Don't leave him hanging.

6. Finally! The fun!
 You've done everything. You've talked through your fantasy extensively with your wife. You two have established your boundaries and discussed expectations. You've found a play mate for your wife! You've exchange a couple emails with him, you've all talked on the phone and met offline casually. You all are on board and ready to play!

Maybe this seems like a lot to some people, but once you get past the discussion portion with your wife and ensure she's as comfortable, willing, and as excited as you are... it could just be a couple days to find a play mate and get to the fun! Anything worth doing is worth doing safely and right!